This tale is about a lifelong scar shared by two middle aged siblings Mark and Andrew* and how they have come to cope with a tremendously devastating scar inflicted from childhood. Mark has been married thirty plus years to the college sweet heart and produced two children who now have families of their own. Mark pursued the simple life of settling down and raising a family. The life’s work was for the raising of the next generation and the mission was to create a fun life devoted to the needs of the children, a life that was vastly different than the childhood Mark had growing up. Andrew on the other hand never married but was esteemed with a longstanding career in the corporate world until the downturn in the economy and had a Passport filled with world travels that many could only dream of. Both experienced the same invisible scar but the personal management of the scar varied drastically, leading them down separate roads that would impact them for many generations.
As children, Mark and Andrew, were devoted to their parents. They wanted to do all they could to make them happy but did not understand that nothing they could have done or not done as children could have changed the will of their parents. It was the heart of the “romantic” Do Wop era and “endless love”. Their parents were married for a good decade before it was discovered their beloved dad was sharing his “love” with many others. Their parents separated and eventually divorced, breaking the hearts of Mark and Andrew. Their mom began to work full time to make ends meet. Mark the oldest would see their dad with these other “loves” and often confronted him but was left either embarrassed or not acknowledged in public by their own dad (see Counterfeit Love Safeguards-The Inner Scar ). Promises were never kept, meals were scant, and bills were just covered while their dad lived the life he wanted with these other “loves”. Mark developed an internal anger and bitterness that was carried for several decades. Anyone that crossed Mark was given a verbal lashing that would send even the strongest home to cry. Mark’s family knew not to get on the “bad side” as it would not be pretty for the recipient. Andrew on the other hand withdrew and vowed never to let anyone get close of enough to cause heartbreak again. Andrew was married to work, working endless amounts of overtime to pay for the annual trip to Europe. Outside of free time, Andrew spent free time immersed in extraordinary amounts of television watching and counterfeit love (i.e. adult media).
“Honor your father and mother” which is the first commandment with a promise. Ephesians 6:2
Their mom had long ago went home to be with the Lord but as recent as the last ten to fifteen years, their now aging “Rolling Stone” dad continued in his life of other “loves”. Naturally their dad had needs of the aged and needed to be cared for. Mark being a family person and Believer, went against his own flesh desire to let dad fend for himself. Mark understood God’s Word on honor of the parents (Ephesians 6:2) and forgiveness (Colossians 3:13). Mark understood that there was no sin too great including adultery to be forgiven. Andrew, who is not a Believer, on the other hand chose to hold on the past and when given opportunities to extend grace toward their dad, opted not to. Time after time opportunities would present themselves to Mark and Andrew to extend grace but each time Andrew chose to not forgive.
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. Colossians 3:13
The years passed on and Mark realized that there was no freedom in holding on to the invisible scars of adultery (1 Corinthians 6:9). Mark was misdirecting the childhood anger to others and not releasing the scar to the Lord to heal. So after many decades and prayers, Mark released the anger to the Lord for Healing and is actively on the journey of taking capture the memories of the past and letting go of the stronghold of angry tongue. Andrew is still on a journey to forgiveness. Despite the encouragement of Mark to forgive and release the past to God, Andrew has persisted in the inner vow of not letting anyone get close enough to cause heartbreak or to be forgiven. This internal bitterness or unforgiveness has now manifested into what we often see at the Healing Rooms, an onset of nearly life threatening medical conditions.
Maybe you or someone you know has been inflicted by an invisible scar. You have carried this scar for many years and have yet to release it to Abba for Him to heal. In releasing the scars of your past, some incredible things occur.
• Learned a primary tenant of our faith: forgiving also known as grace
• Canceled Satan’s authority over you including his mark (i.e. sickness, disease) by forgiving
• Allow yourself to be Healed emotionally, spiritually, and physically according to God’s Word
Father, Son Jesus Christ of Nazareth, and Holy Spirit we ask to fill us with your remarkable grace and healing. We bind up the Spirit of hardened hearts, unforgiveness, and sickness. We release your Spirit of love, joy, peace, faithfulness, forbearance, kindness, goodness, gentleness, and self control upon us in the name and blood of Jesus Christ of Nazareth. Father, Son Jesus Christ of Nazareth, and Holy Spirit we choose to forgive ourselves for any invisible scars we may have inflicted on others by our personal pursuits of the flesh. Cleanse us Lord from the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes which often precedes flesh sins, and the pride of life. Cover us in your precious blood, guard our eyes, and hearts in Christ Jesus, Amen. – Blessings
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