Dating & Marriage 101: Coincidence, Fate, Providence, & Signs – How to Know if its Meant to Be

fateFor a few years, I wrestled with the question “How do I know if its meant to be?” I wondered if everything happens for a reason or are just a series of coincidences. Many of us are in the middle of or on the verge of some pretty major life altering decisions (marriage, divorce, new job). We want to know if “it” is meant to be or “God’s plan”. So I set out to answer the question that dangles around most of us at one stage of life or another.

“How do I know if its meant to be?”

Though popular culture romanticizes every “coincidental” happening as a green light from above for “it” being meant to be (i.e. school, job) or “he” being the one (i.e. date, marry), these “coincidental” happenings as appealing as they may seem may in fact be clever life traps meant to send those earnestly seeking the “right path” down a dead end road. A popular “Religious” writer on this topic shared a story of a woman who was away from home and visiting a “Big City”. She came across a quaint apartment that in many ways stole her heart. She returned home to her husband with whom she was having some marital difficulties with the idea that they should move into this apartment. Her husband did not agree and after some time they divorced. The woman found a realtor who helped her search for her new home and would you believe it, the first home that they came across was the apartment the woman found when she was visiting the “Big City” before. The author and individual suggested that her coming across the apartment initially then after her divorce was a confirmation sign that she was on the right track.

The coming of the lawless one will be in accordance with the work of Satan displayed in all kinds of counterfeit miracles, SIGNS and wonders, and every sort of evil that deceives those who are perishing. 2 Thessalonians 2:9

The first step in determining if “It is meant to be” or “God’s plan” is to ask oneself if the current coincidence or “sign” agrees with what God has already given us in scripture. In the “Big City” story, we have a woman who was met with some pretty compelling coincidences or “signs”. She was conveniently away from home, having difficulties in her marriage, and came across an apartment that gave her a new hope and sense of freedom. She assumed like many of us that these series of circumstances were a sure sign that she was on the “right path” and okay to do the opposite of what is consistent with God’s counsel on marriage. Ultimately, she and the author blindly saw the circumstances as a green light and went on to promote a counterfeit signs driven theology or false teaching that encourages Believers to assume circumstances alone or “signs” are green lights from God to pursue something or someone.

The coming of the lawless one will be in accordance with the work of Satan displayed in all kinds of counterfeit miracles, SIGNS and wonders, and every sort of evil that deceives those who are perishing. 2 Thessalonians 2:9

In the book of Job, God sees Satan roaming the earth and God suggests to Satan his servant Job. Note that God initated the series of difficult circumstances that Job would face, not Satan. Yes, God granted Satan permission to arrange these purposeful happenings to test his faithfulness to God. Was the intention of these tests a sign from God that His will was for Job to suffer all the days of his life or that God hates Him (false thinking that many of us assume when difficulties arise)? No. God’s desire was to prove to Satan the faithfulness of Job to God. Despite Job losing his children, his servants, and his wealth in a very short period of time, Job gave an encouraging response.

Then Job arose and tore his robe and shaved his head, and he fell to the ground and worshiped. He said, Naked I came from my mother’s womb, And naked I shall return there. The Lord gave and the Lord has taken away. Blessed be the name of the Lord.” Through all this Job did not sin nor did he blame God. Job 1:20-22

In the book of Exodus (Chapters Seven to Eight) we have the story of Moses, the Pharaoh, and the Plagues. The Lord commissioned Moses to tell the Pharaoh to release the Israelites from slavery. Knowing the Pharaoh would not willingly release the Israelites, the Lord God gave Moses specific miracles to perform in order to demonstrate the Lord’s power and message.

‘”When Pharaoh says to you, ‘Perform a miracle,’ then say to Aaron, ‘Take your staff and throw it down before Pharaoh,’ and it will become a snake.” So Moses and Aaron went to Pharaoh and did just as the LORD commanded. Aaron threw his staff down in front of Pharaoh and his officials, and it became a snake.’ Exodus 7:9-10

Pharaoh being the worldly man of power he was, was not moved by the miracle performed by God’s prophet. In fact, Pharaoh summoned his own miracle workers called “wise men”, “sorcerers, and “magicians” with “secret arts” to perform the same miracle.

‘Then Pharaoh also called for the wise men and the sorcerers, and they also, the magicians of Egypt, did the same with their secret arts. For each one threw down his staff and they turned into serpents…’
Exodus 7:11

Two more times Pharaoh and his counterfeit wise men reproduced miracles previously performed by God’s prophet Moses.

‘So Moses and Aaron did even as the LORD had commanded. And he lifted up the staff and struck the water that was in the Nile, in the sight of Pharaoh and in the sight of his servants, and all the water that was in the Nile was turned to blood. The fish that were in the Nile died, and the Nile became foul, so that the Egyptians could not drink water from the Nile. And the blood was through all the land of Egypt. But the magicians of Egypt did the same with their secret arts; and Pharaoh’s heart was hardened, and he did not listen to them, as the LORD had said.’ Exodus 7:20-22

‘So Aaron stretched out his hand over the waters of Egypt, and the frogs came up and covered the land of Egypt. The magicians did the same with their secret arts, making frogs come up on the land of Egypt.’ Exodus 8:6-7

After the plague of the frogs, the counterfeit miracle workers were not able to keep up with the authentic miracle worker, prophet of God, Moses.

‘They did so; and Aaron stretched out his hand with his staff, and struck the dust of the earth, and there were gnats on man and beast. All the dust of the earth became gnats through all the land of Egypt. The magicians tried with their secret arts to bring forth gnats, but they could not; so there were gnats on man and beast. Then the magicians said to Pharaoh, “This is the finger of God.” But Pharaoh’s heart was hardened, and he did not listen to them, as the LORD had said.’ Exodus 8:17-19

Prophetically, God the Father issues this warning to his children that just as in the days of his beloved prophet Moses there would be false “miracle workers” or “signs and wonders” today. Jesus Christ of Nazareth reissues this warning that there are many lawless ones or workers of Satan who in this life time would do “miracle work”, “signs and wonders” or “prophesy” in His name but WILL NOT INHERIT THE KINGDOM OF GOD. There are many unsuspecting individuals being led astray by false “signs” or coincidences set up by the prince of darkness to destroy lives. These false signs look like a Cinderella story but end up being a real life nightmare (HINT: Ask your girlfriends who were married and divorced in under 3 years).

‘The coming of THE LAWLESS ONE will be in ACCORDANCE WITH THE WORK OF SATAN DISPLAYED IN ALL KINDS OF COUNTERFEIT MIRACLES, SIGNS, AND WONDERS, and every sort of evil that deceives those who are perishing.’ 2 Thessalonians 2:9

Application:
Our culture encourages us to look for signs of “The One”. Not the King of Kings but of our “Prince Charming” or “Mr. Right”. And many believe that because our path crosses the path of another individual once or maybe even five times, that that alone is a green light from God of this being our future life long mate. WRONG! That handsome or charming individual in our lives might be a “sign” not of God’s plan but of great difficulty ahead. One that will test our faithfulness to God.

Do “signs and wonders”, “miracles”, or coincidences mean it’s from God or mean it’s meant to be?
Answer: No

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Dating & Marriage 101: Hey you! Wanna have some fun? Let’s Do it!

counterfeitThere’s a fun Cole Porter song called “Let’s Do it”.  It’s a cute early jazz standard about falling in love.  Have you ever found yourself bopping away to songs like this 1928 ditty and then find yourself going, “What?!”

When the little bluebird
Who has never said a word
Starts to sing Spring
When the little bluebell
At the bottom of the dell
Starts to ring Ding dong Ding dong
When the little blue clerk
In the middle of his work
Starts a tune to the moon up above
It is nature that is all
Simply telling us to fall in love

And that’s why birds do it, bees do it
Even educated fleas do it
Let’s do it, let’s fall in love
Cold Cape Cod clams, ‘gainst their wish, do it
Even lazy jellyfish do it
Let’s do it, let’s fall in love
I’ve heard that lizards and frogs do it
Layin’ on a rock
They say that roosters do it
With a doodle and cock
Some Argentines, without means do it
I hear even Boston beans do it
Let’s do it, let’s fall in love

When the little bluebird
Who has never said a word
starts to sing Spring spring spring
When the little bluebell
At the bottom of the dell
Starts to ring Ding ding ding
When the little blue clerk
In the middle of his work
Starts a tune

The most refined lady bugs do it
When a gentleman calls
Moths in your rugs they do it
What’s the use of moth balls
The chimpanzees in the zoos do it,
Some courageous kangaroos do itLet’s do it, let’s fall in love
I’m sure sometimes on the sly you do it
Maybe even you and I might do it
Let’s do it, let’s fall in love – Cole Porter

 

The last time I really listened to these lyrics, I had that “What?!” moment.  While the song speaks “innocently” of doing it or falling in love, there seems to be an undertone of something more.  The phrase do it in 20th and 21st century American culture has a whole meaning of its own and we’re not talking love.  I don’t recall learning in biology class about lady bugs and moths doing it or falling in love as Mr. Porter describes.  But I do recall learning in biology about their mating and reproductive habits.  I mean seriously, is he really encouraging us to be like lady bugs?  Sorry, I’m not signup up for that.  Double entendres are used often in media and could it be that this song is one of the earliest examples of media being used to promote something that counters God’s natural design.  If we were to do it like the lady bugs or bumblebees, we’d be purely mating and reproducing without any regard for the love God brings through the husband wife union.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, Galatians 5:22

Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, 1 Corinthians 13:4

Not once in any of these references does Abba describe or promote doing it.  But he does spend an extra amount of time describing how we should actually avoid the passion that this classic and other popular songs alludes we should desire.

For this is the will of God, your sanctification; that is, that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each of you know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, not in lustful passion, like the Gentiles who do not know God; Never harm or cheat a Christian brother in this matter by violating his wife, for the Lord avenges all such sins, as we have solemnly warned you before. God has called us to live holy lives, not impure lives. Therefore, anyone who refuses to live by these rules is not disobeying human teaching but is rejecting God, who gives his Holy Spirit to you. But we don’t need to write to you about the importance of loving each other, for God himself has taught you to love one another. Indeed, you already show your love for all the believers throughout Macedonia. Even so, dear brothers and sisters, we urge you to love them even more. Make it your goal to live a quiet life, minding your own business and working with your hands, just as we instructed you before. Then people who are not Christians will respect the way you live, and you will not need to depend on others. 2 Thessalonians 4:3-12

Flee immorality. Every other sin that a man commits is outside the body, but the immoral man sins against his own body.  1 Corinthians 6:18

I am afraid that when I come again my God will humble me before you, and I will be grieved over many who have sinned earlier and have not repented of the impurity, sexual sin and debauchery in which they have indulged. 2 Corinthians 12:21

The acts of the sinful nature are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery. Galatians 5:19

But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people. Ephesians 5:3

Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is idolatry. Colossians 3:5

Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. Hebrews 13:4

One of the things I’ve come to learn through Bible study is that repetition counts.  Anything a writers spends time repeating topics and themes, we should take notice that this is an area of high importance to Abba.  God calls the believer to live a life of purity NOT PASSION.  Anything that is encouraging us to live in PASSION is counter to Christ (yep that’d make it anti-Christ) and will earn us a one way ticket to the prince of the air’s promise land.  If you like it hot and steamy, you’ll get an eternal, endless supply of it there.  We’ve all seen the romantic comedies, soap operas, or friends display the “romantic love” (translation = lust).  Our imaginations get going and we ourselves become immersed in the passion that Abba tells us to avoid.  Something inside of us says do it.  That something encourages us to pursue that hot and steamy mess that violates and defiles the temple that Abba gave you.  That something is not of Christ but of the anti-Christ.

Here’s a wonderful excerpt from Grace to You
God’s will is that you be sanctified. Now what does exactly that mean? Let’s get real practical. Four things he says. One, that is, i.e., that you abstain from sexual immorality. Now we’re getting real practical. Stay away from sex sins. Somebody says, “How far away?” Far enough away to be separated from all sexual sin – very practical. This is God’s will. Sometimes you have a couple come in and want to get married and they sit in the office and I say, “Tell me a little bit about yourself. When did you meet?” And so forth and so forth. And through the years, I’ve always asked a question somewhere on the line, “Are you engaged in sinful sexual behavior?” It’s a direct approach. And then you see these, sometimes shining faces saying, “No,” and you know, “We’re waiting until marriage.” Sometimes these faces fall and sheepish looks and my response is, “Well, if you’re conducting yourself knowingly out of the will of God and are unwilling to obey the will of God which is revealed, then why would you assume that it’s the will of God for this relationship to go on?” Sometimes they’ll say, “You know, we think it’s God’s will for us to get married.” The first question is, “Are you committing sexual sin together? Because if you are you’re not in the will of God now. You got to back up. Go back, reestablish that relationship on a pure level. And when you have been obedient to that which is known to be the will of God, you’ll be in a position for God to disclose to you, pretty clearly, what is his will about what is not revealed.” Stay away from sexual sin. And of course it’s ubiquitous. It’s everywhere, always has been, there’s nothing new under the sun, just comes in different forms. Stay away from sex sin. And he gets more specific, verse 4, “Each of you should know how to possess his own vessel,” that’s body, “in sanctification and honor.” Handle your body to honor God. Handle your body in a pure way. Keep your body pure. Continuing reading sermon…HERE

Now unless you’re having hot and steamy fun with your spouse, I would encourage you to NOT DO IT.  Maybe you’ve spent the last few years “having a little fun”, “messing around a little”, or simply doing it without being married or with someone who is not your spouse.  Well my friend, you have been duped.  What you have is not love but passionate lust.  The father of lies (John 8:44) has done a masterful job of changing the description of love.  Abba created love, defined it, and gives it to us.  The prince of the air (Ephesians 2:2) has given you a COUNTER FIT LOVE also known as lust also known as premarital sex also known as messing around also know as having a little fun also known as sexual sin.  Sons and daughters of the most high, my challenge to you is ask yourself if what you are pursuing is God’s love or Counter fit love.  Any relationship that lands you in the back of a car, in your boy/girlfriend’s apartment/house, or only God knows where else, is NOT LOVE.  And I might challenge you to consider if the “Christian boy/girlfriend” who is encouraging to disobey Abba, is really a “Christian”.  Really?  Yes my dear one, really (see 2 Corinthians 11:14).  🙂  It might be hot and steamy passion but it’s NOT LOVE.  It’s time for the Body of Christ and the world to turn from this corporate stronghold of worldly love.  This worldly love is lust and is not of Christ but of the anti-Christ.  This worldly, hot and steamy love of doing it will earn you not the love that God intends but a bigger hole in your heart and possibly eternal separation from our Abba.

Abba, we repent of participating in the counter fit love of the world and we commit ourselves in purity to you.  We ask that you would bind up the lust of our flesh, the lust of our eyes, and the pride of life.  We ask that you would bind up all unclean, seducing spirits and all incubus and succubus spirits attacking us.  And we ask that you loose your Holy Spirit upon us and cleanse us Lord.  Purify us Lord, create within us a new heart that is consecrated to you.  Open the eyes and ears of our hearts Lord to listen to you and accept your truths.  Help us to be obedient and cancel Satan’s entrance into our lives via worldly love, lust, and sexual sin.  We are your sons and daughters Abba and are free from being the sons and daughters of disobedience (Ephesians 2:2).  We thank you for your merciful grace and continuing to perfect us.  Thank you Abba and please cover us in the Blood of the Lamb, Jesus Christ.  – Amen

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Book Club: Daughter’s Reading List 2012

The Good Book

  1. Perry Stone’s Purging Your House, Pruning Your Family Tree.  Topic – Generational Sins & Spiritual Warfare
  2. John & Mark Sandford’s A Comprehensive Guide to Deliverance and Inner Healing.  Topic – Inner Healing
  3. Kenneth E. Hagin’s Following God’s Plan For Your Life.  Topic – Living the Holy Spirit Led Life
  4. Henry Cloud & John Townsend’s Boundaries: When to Say Yes, When to Say No.  Topic – Setting Limits
  5. Nancy Leigh Demoss’ Lies Women Believe: And the Truth That Sets Them Free.  Topic – Biblical Truths
  6. Greg Boyd’s Present Perfect: Finding God in the Now.  Topic – Contentment
  7. Lisa Bevere’s Lioness Arising.  Topic – Women’s leadership

*Books are not ranked in any particular order.

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Discernment: Daughters

DaughtersNancy Alcorn is a phenomenal woman.  She is the founder of Mercy Ministries.  Her message has been imprinted on my heart forever.  Anyone who has worked with young women especially from impoverished backgrounds has worked with many of the “daughters” she describes.  I could identify with Nancy’s struggle with trying to help these young girls who are hurting but being limited by church and state rules.  Many of the hurts the girls feel are major scars inflicted from abuse experienced at young ages.  Fast forward to the preteen and teens and you have the byproduct of that abuse: angry, young women who do not trust.  They are mad, they don’t smile, they’re curious as to why you want to help them, they are amazed you would spend your free time doing something for them and not want anything back, and in/out of juvenile or adult correction facilities. 

I love children and especially teenage girls.  Nancy’s message is one that everyone should hear, but especially those that work with young girls.  Nancy has no birth children, but she has many “daughters” that God has entrusted her to raise up.  I will share a brief story about one of Nancy’s daughters.  Nancy spent 5 years working in a women’s juvenile correction facility.  She could see so much potential in these girls and could not believe the world counted these girls out of ever being productive.   God placed upon her heart one girl, one “daughter”.  Over the course of her daughter’s stay, she had the opportunity to share God.  Her daughter had experienced horrific abuse and developed gender identity issues.  Upon her daughter’s release from the facility, Nancy prayed with her and instructed her to find a church within her community so that she could be among other believers and truly accept Christ (spiritual baptism).  Nancy told her that she would be accepted.  The girl was hesitant about this and didn’t believe she would be accepted but she followed Nancy’s instructions.

Many months later, Nancy received a phone call from her daughter’s birth mother.  Her daughter had shot herself in the head and left a gut wrenching note.  She wrote that she went to the local church as she was instructed and she was not accepted.  She was laughed at and judged by her appearance.  So this daughter, went home feeling rejected by the church body who Nancy declared would accept her.  This daughter ended it all before she could experience the joy God had planned for her.   Nancy’s beautiful daughter was heavy with judgment and shame.  She only wanted to be accepted and loved.  There was an opportunity within the church body to love her, but it was squandered.   She ended her life after she was rejected and judged by “believers”.  The TRUTH is that all of God’s believers are sons/daughters of God.  We are coheir’s with Christ (Romans 8:17). The TRUTH is we believers sit at the right hand of God with Christ in the heavenlies above the principalities of this world (Ephesians 2:6).   The moment we accept Christ, we are given the authority over our homes and families and friends.  WE ARE ABOVE the principalities of this world and devil.

The Lord says to live by faith not by sight, trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not unto our own understanding, and anything not done in faith is sin.  God is challenging us to LOVE!  Nancy said it and a great pal of mine says it “Love on ‘em”.  We are comfortable with our close group of Christian friends but meeting/talking with random strangers feels super awkward.  Wouldn’t it be amazing if we would jump outside of our boxes, step away from our shyness, step away from the mental fear, and jump into the ocean of God.  Interrupt that person dashing for the exit door or texting.  Talk to that person of a different age, style of dress, background, etc.  Introduce yourself and let God lead you.  Satan wants us to be standoffish and make assumptions.  He wants us to be complacent and do nothing.  Reject his LIES and accept the TRUTH…Love.  James 2:2-9 describes well what God’s feels about judgment or favoritism.

Lord, let your words be a Blessing to the readers of your Word and this message.  Speak to us as your Spirit wills, so that we may bear eternal fruit for your kingdom.  Amen

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Dating & Marriage 101: Beauty?

BeautyHoly Spirit I thank you for your Spirit of revelation and TRUTH.  Your words have pricked my heart and I thank you for allowing me to share your TRUTHS.  I pray for your Spirit of Protection of the message, the messenger, and the readers.  We put on the full armor, standing firm against the principalities, and lies of the society.  Speak to us individually as we read, as we sleep, and as we press ahead.  Let our thoughts, words, and actions be honoring of you Lord.  Protect us from the Spirit of anger and offense, let your peace and glory abound.  You are so awesome Lord and must be praised.  God Speak.

I was having lunch at a local restaurant.  Two young girls, about high school age, waltzed in and instantly drew attention.  The volume of conversation was much louder and the topic of conversation was boys.  As I was reading the NT, the girls sat down next to my table.  Their conversation progressed into reading horoscopes for relationship advice.  One of the girls said she was scared to read the info and the other said it was the “truth” and her dad has a big horoscope reference book at home for advice.   The reading seemed to be quite a dark for anyone, especially young girls or women, to read.  It spoke heavily of betrayal, not making others angry or else revenge, jealously, etc.  The other girl said she was really afraid and wanted her friend to stop reading it.  The girl that was reading the book said something to the nature of “Okay, but this is so your boyfriend.  He is just like this.”  Then the conversation turned to the experiences of being controlled and having a jealous boyfriend.  I prayed over the conversation and for the girls who seemed to be filled not with the joy that God designed for us but discontentment.

Prior to this, I had dinner with a good pal at a book store and discontentment became the topic of choice.   A book geared to preteen girls called Boy Talk was staring at us.  The entire book was filled with lies to young girls about them not being enough.  Dress this way; talk that way, show interest in their hobbies, etc etc etc.  It made me quite sad to think that the truth was not being told.  The truth of girls and women being fearfully and wonderfully made was not being expressed.  Instead the lie of being not good enough was being spread.  We then looked at the magazines and how they spread the same lies to women.  Every fitness, style, or beauty magazine toted the same theme of self improvement.  Plump up the lashes, plump up the lips, plump up the butt, plump up whatever you can so that you can be validated by man.  The idea of encouraging envy or jealousy by friends or acquaintances was cleverly disguised and prevalent.  The idea of enticing men to lust after you was also very prevalent.  Cover after cover, article after article, filled with nonsense about what we, women, can do to make ourselves better or validated.  LIES

At some point, many of us have been trapped by the lies being pushed.  My adolescent trappings were my skin was too brown, my hair was too thick and needed the creamy smack and all day hair appointments to be beautified, I was too skinny and must not have been trying hard enough to be thick like the friends or family who naturally had “meat on their bones”, and a host of other distortions.  I hated to look at myself because I wasn’t what was in the magazines or TV.  Fast forward into my thirties and God has given much clarity on those LIES.  God knit us together and he knew us before we were born.  He knew the color of our eyes, the curl of our hair, the height we would reach, our body form, and the brownness of our skin before we were born.  The best thing of all, is that he made us all different, he made us fearfully, and he made us wonderfully.  He didn’t create us so that we would pick on ourselves.  He didn’t create us so that we would try to change what he created through crazy dieting/overeating to fit in, bleaching or tanning ourselves to be more, donning excessive makeup, or a host of other things to be validated as beautiful.

So the young girls left the restaurant and as I watched them leave, I was saddened to see one of them at midday wearing only cut off shorts, a bikini top, and unzipped sweater.  I was that age and I could instantly see their desire to be validated as beautiful.  The validation they sought was a LIE about what is beautiful.  The TRUTH: “Your adornment must not be merely be external braiding the hair, wearing gold jewelry or putting on dresses; but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God.” 1 Peter 3:3-4 NASB.  The TRUTH is wisdom is beautiful.  “How Blessed is the man who finds wisdom and the man who gains understanding. For her profit is better than the profit of silver and her gain better than fine gold. She is more precious than jewels; and nothing your desire compares with her. Long life is in her right hand; in her left hand are riches and honor. Her ways are pleasant ways and all her paths are peace. She is a tree of life to those who take hold of her, and happy are all those who hold her fast.” Proverbs 3:13-19.

Now as women of all seasons, the challenge is to live according to the TRUTH.  The TRUTH is our beauty is not the external but internal. “Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.”  Proverbs 31:30.  “Likewise, I want women to adorn themselves with proper clothing, modestly and discreetly, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly garments, but rather by means of good works as is proper for women making a claim to godliness.  A woman must quietly receive instruction with entire submissiveness.  But I do not allow a woman to teach or exercise authority over a man, but to remain quiet. For it was Adam who was first created and then Eve. And it was not Adam who was deceived, but the woman being deceived, fell into transgression.”  1 Timothy 2:9-14.  We are beautiful naturally by God’s measure.  We must reject the LIES of society.  LIES in kid’s books like Boy Talk, women’s magazines, television ads and shows, music videos, and personal distortions (eating disorders).  Too much of our time is trying to imitate the world’s design of beauty.  The TRUTH is “Beloved, do not imitate what is evil, but what is good. The one who does good is of God; the one who does evil has not seen God.” 3 John 1:11.

So, the simple question I have begun to ask myself and we should all ask ourselves is:  “What is the motivation?”  What is the motivation of buying that magazine?  What is the motivation of buying those expensive shoes or bag?  What is the motivation of buying the lip plumper?  What is the motivation of wearing a provocative dress or too tight jeans etc…in church or the club?  What is the motivation of participating in a club or group?  If the motivation is pure, God seeking and God glorifying, then we have no problem.   But if the action or motive (intentionally or not) is to be validated by man, to be “noticed”, seek praise, gather attention, distract others from focus on God, we must stop ourselves and exercise self control as women submitting our actions and motives to God.  Proverbs 7:10-11 describes well a busy lady, dressed to seduce, loud, rebellious, and never home.  She is described as a predator seeking to devour a prey.  I wondered during those K to 12 years of Catholic school why we had such strict dress codes (knee length shirts or dresses, white blouses, sweaters).  Was it to eliminate disparities between kids of all backgrounds?  Maybe.  Was it cheaper?  Maybe.   Or, the answer was quite simple.  They were encouraging us young ladies to be modest and to be the fearfully and wonderfully made women God designed.  They were encouraging us to be the natural beauties that God designed.  Go beautiful friends and share the TRUTH.  Be God’s beauties.

Thank you Lord for sharing your message, as these are your words not mine.  May they be a Blessing to those who read it and Bless those who have not read.  Give us your Spirit of Truth.  Amen

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